The 'Gender' and 'Love' (Article)

By: K.P. Poudel;

Being particular to this customary young generation ‘love and gender’ is all “messed up” it would seem futile to tell apart, love and gender. Crazy lovers have articulated that there can be no ‘love without gender’. But in fact, there can be ‘love without gender’ and ‘gender without love’. Now if a question is put forth for all, ‘which do exist in your relation, love without gender or gender without love’?  Obviously, many will say ‘love without gender’ but the truth may be hardly with any. And to those who strongly say ‘yes’, “can you be answerable to God, who judges all the inner thoughts and attitudes of the heart?”. To those lairs; who yet say ‘yes’, again remember our ‘yes’ is going to be judged.

Regarding issues about love and gender, and morality the present generation has to grow up early: grow up earlier and faster because the pressure we have to face these days is immense, than preceding generations.

Now a day’s gender is treated as the normal standard of the society, provided it is handled through safe means or by means of using condoms, pills etc and are spread through Medias and many other means. Truly speaking, it has begot animal love among us and in fact now there is no difference between the animals and men in matter of general relationship.  Our present generation is imbibing this culture with no means of limits and so gender is misused in the name of love-Eros. If anyone loves to say I love you, it means he loves to have gender; for I heard the youths of the age singing in their tinge ‘love is a name and gender is a game!…lets forget the name and begin the game’, as their slogan.

        

Isn’t this factual, gentlemen? Than, have you not ever said, “If you love me, you will say yes” when your mate has refuse to share her/his body with you? If you would love your friend truly than you would never ask to do it or say yes! But you have tried to make love an instrument only for seducing. In the mist of all these, a most important and very personal question only you can answer is, ‘what will gender and love mean to me?’ the world saying, “Go for it! Go for it!”  while the inner voice saying, “wait for it! Wait for it! Would mean a life-time of love and security[1]. This crucial choice is ours!!! Forgetting not the Christ thought morality!

→ Love requires constant attention, gender takes no ingoing effort

→ Love takes time to developed and mature, gender need no time to mature

→ Love requires emotional and spiritual interaction, gender requires only physical interaction.

         

When gender and love demands to flow together, it is “if love” or “Eros Love”. Brethren flee from this love, for the Bible says, “Flee the evil desire of youth…” (II timothy 2:22).

However, who is the inventor of love and gender? Is it the playboy magazine? No, it is G-o-d. God created human beings as general beings, but God intended general activity only to the marriage relationship.  Gender is God’s gift and is best enjoyed within the limits of God’s word. This means that there is a fence around the gender and that is marriage.

But, why a fence by the inventor? So there we’ll be guaranteed to enjoy it. He wants to keep it beautifully and dynamic, because that’s what God invented gender to be. He intends to generate dynamite enjoyment within the fence called marriage that is why God brought the spouses under obligation to meet each others general needs (I Corin. 7:3-5).

Friends, gender is not a sin but a brilliant sanction from God but within the relationship call ‘marriage’. Pre-marital gender or extra-marital gender is a sin before God. Fire in its place keeps us warm and good but outside its place may hurt people. So, also gender in its proper place keeps warm but gender outside the marriage will always hurt you and your friends[2]. Why does God say to wait for gender? He doesn’t want you to ruin your ‘gift’ by opening it earlier than it supposed to be. Gender is too special to be ruined. Gender is specially designed to be something special inside a permanent, committed relationship; between you and one person, not between you and 2 or 3 others.

So, commence not, the gender, when today is not ours but wait for tomorrow. Remember when you make love, you make memories. Reckon the cost before you take gender outside the fence???

[1] “A manual on True Love Waits”, A Publication of the Youth Dept., NBCC, p-15.

[2] “A manual on True Love Waits”, A Publication of the Youth Dept., NBCC.